Asking Better Questions Changes Everything

Not because they suddenly became perfect.
Not because they had everything figured out.
But because something shifted in their posture.

That idea has been sitting with me as I’ve been working on a recent video — one where I stopped to talk with a guy named Vince who was standing on the side of the street holding a sign.

We didn’t agree on everything.
There was no debate stage.
No performance.

Just a conversation.

What stood out to me most wasn’t what happened while the cameras were rolling, but what happened after.

He lingered.

He stayed by my car.
Asked more questions.
And before we parted ways, he told me the conversation really resonated with him — and that he was going home to dig into his Bible.

That moment surprised me.

Not because I said everything perfectly (I didn’t).
Not because I “won” anything (I didn’t).
And not even because I prayed a prayer (I didn’t even pray at all!)

But because it reminded me of something I fear we have lost sight of, and that is:

It was meant to be a practice. And there’s a wonderful invitation to all of us, from our Creator, to join in it to some capacity — and it’s wonderful! ⭐

When someone called Him “Good Teacher,” He didn’t rush to affirm it — He asked, “Why do you call me good?” (Mark 10:18)

When a blind man cried out for healing, Jesus didn’t assume — He asked, “What do you want me to do for you?” (Mark 10:51)

When He was with His disciples, He didn’t hand them a slogan — He asked, “Who do you say that I am?” (Matthew 16:15)

Questions that slowed things down.
Questions that revealed hearts.
Questions that invited reflection instead of resistance.

Paul took a similar posture — becoming “all things to all people,” not by compromising truth, but by meeting people where they actually were.

It’s easier to argue than to listen.
It’s easier to perform than to be present.
It’s easier to preach at people than to walk with them.

And if you think the pull toward recognition or virality isn’t there for me, it is.

I want that more than I’d like to admit. And I know that if I spend enough time scrolling, I’ll start feeling the pressure to shape my faith around what performs instead of what’s faithful.

That tension is one of my biggest battles right now.

A lot of what we see online is shaped by what performs well. It sparks outrage, drives comments, and keeps people watching. And while some of that content looks bold, it often turns real people into caricatures and real faith into a spectacle.

Downstream from that, we end up with a version of evangelism that feels more like noise rather than Good News. We end up with videos of young people online yelling “Jesus loves you” into random spaces without relationship, context, or care.

I don’t think that comes from bad intentions,
I think it genuinely comes from zeal without stewardship.

And again — I’ve been there, ha!

What I’m learning is that curiosity tends to open doors that confrontation slams shut.

Just one example of many online…

I appreciate this kid’s heart and zeal, but I cringed trying to watch this, and I still do. I couldn’t even watch the whole thing. And I still haven’t.

And it didn’t feel manufactured or like “content-first faith.”

It felt human, and it felt repeatable.

Not something reserved for professionals or personalities. More like something ordinary believers could actually see themselves doing.

And I think that’s the invitation here.

Not to be louder.
Not to be sharper.
Not to be more viral.

But to be more present.

To ask better questions.
To trust that God is already at work.
And to believe that posture still matters.

Because in my experience — and what I’m increasingly discovering in Scripture is that…

Asking better questions really does change everything.

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